I’d cheekily say: every mom – and probably every dad too – reaches a point where you somehow lose yourself. Your own worth. And no, it’s not automatically the kids’ fault – often, it’s us. Things don’t always go as planned… sometimes there isn’t even a plan. You’re stuck in a circle, having to motivate yourself and reinvent yourself on top of everything else. From the outside, it sounds simple – but you know: your biggest critic is you. And your biggest fan? Sadly, not you.
That’s what makes the cycle so tough. But – what if you manage to break out? How does that feel? I’ll tell you: amazing! But sure, the big question remains: where to start?
Look around you. Where are the blocks? What doesn’t work for you personally? Try – if at all possible – one night of 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Not every day (with kids that’s unrealistic), but once. Feel the difference. Then think back: what have you already achieved that you once thought impossible? You did it. Maybe someone else wouldn’t have managed – but you did. See? That’s a start.
And then: look again. What small things can you pick up easily? For me, it was wanting more balance, more movement. But without massive planning or childcare logistics. So I asked myself: what was already there? Exactly – sports with a kids club. I’ve never been a gym fan, really never. But: I can let off steam, do something for my well-being and body, and meanwhile, the kids play with other kids. Win-win. Flexible in time. And honestly: what else would I have done in that time that makes me more efficient in daily life and opens my horizon?
It took me years, but that was my step forward. Small, maybe even unremarkable – but a step. And those little steps, the consistency, the self-awareness – that’s what makes each day a little brighter.
